2nd Part to the Family Bit

So, here is the most important thing in this to me and what I want to ask anyone reading this.

Do you believe so strongly in your "family" that you are willing to throw away 16 years, almost 17 years with someone who will stick with you, on your side, all the time, no matter what, because your family is your family?
Or
Do you realize that your spouse is your family first now and that if he/she would do anything in the world for you and to see you happy and loves you more than anything and has never mistreated you, stick by your spouse over your family?
Keeping in mind that your family has almost always taken everyone's side over your own almost every time they have had the choice to stand by you and then chose not to. Well, that is how it is here.
Every time I had a suggestion or told the truth or whatever, my family took someone else's side if given the chance to, no matter what. They would do it again if I ever gave them the chance. Why should I even consider giving any of them the benefit of the doubt, when they do not do the same in return? I have been trustworthy and loyal to them my entire life. It has gotten me nowhwere but betrayed, stabbed in the back, pain and sadness. When I am around them it is like a never ending roller coaster. I am grown and have a family of my own.
My side is with my husband. The rest of them will have to live with this one or make peace on their own or come to me. I have always given in and always done the right thing to keep the peace, I am always the first one to seek a solution so everyone can just get along and I have become the family kicking post for it. I am tired of it.

If I could ever say anything to anyone out there who might read this:
Don't sell out your good thing for something nobody will ever appreciate. If you have a good marriage and your family does not like your spouse, and you are happy, don't give in to your family. Chances are, I believe, they are jealous and sinking and want to take you down with them.
Keep an open mind about things in order to see the truth and hear it. I was stuck in "my mom's the greatest, my sister's wonderful, etc my entire life. At the age of 33 years, I learned they aren't and woke up. My husband did not say much to me about it because he did not want to hurt me and did not want to see me separate myself from them because I love a lot.

Remember:
God, if you listen, can show you and tell you all you ever need to know about anyone. Including your family. If they are destruction in your life, separate yourself to the point that they are not all that matters in your life and seek peace in God. Only He can ever make things right.